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11 weeks old

April 13, 2012 by

So much has changed. Again 🙂 He smiles, cheekily and engagingly, he visits smiles on us when we please him. He waves his arms and is thrilled when they connect with things, kicks his legs to get rid of blankets. I swear he wees at us on purpose and is charmed by the cries of outrage the person he catches utters. He loves to be nappy free on the bed, he knows the signs that mean a feed is coming and stops crying ready to enjoy the cuddle and the closeness and the food.

He’s thoughtful and he’s undemanding and he’s ‘good’… People always ask that; ‘is he good????’ like a 10 week old baby might have a wicked streak. Yes, he’s good. He eats and sleeps and poos and smiles and turns his head to one side so much so that side is a little flat and those right side features are not identical to the other. He’s a baby, doing baby things. I’m not about to tell him off for waking up at night or always turning to the right.

He looks at a painting on my wall for ages. The blue flowers fascinate him. He loves lights and being naked and Josie talking to him and Fran carrying him and Amelie being silly and Maddy stroking his face and talking in silly language and voice.

He sleeps a lot, doesn’t mind being surrounded in knitting, needs a bib all the time because he’s sicky. Loves his sling, still goes yellow, doesn’t need a bottle last thing any more, tolerates ebm in a bottle but grumps at formula. I can’t see him putting up with that’s much longer, but that’s okay because he’s finally got the hang of feeding enough to live.

After tomorrow, because I’m damned if I’m sleeping in a babyless bed on April 13th, he’s going to try his crib, because he doesn’t seem to mind sleeping really, unless he wakes up at 12. Then he’s still a bit nocturnal.

He thinks tummy time is a bit rubbish but, if its nappy off time and mummy does a massage at the same time and there are lots of raspberries blown, well… Then it’s okay. He tries to pull his knees up under him.

He still look unspeakably cute like this, but it happens less now because we can feed out and in arms and standing up. Just the sling to crack now. We went into town with our first go using a moby though and managed that. Funny things, stretchy slings.

He charmed a variety of relatives this week, grew into 0-3 babygros, didn’t cry in the bath, went to bed without me at 10pm.
He talks, mimics, coos and caws and communicates with all the people he already loves. He loves us all so much with his eyes. It’s those eyes, still piercingly blue, that mean I forgive him when he chokes, like he did last night and his body went rigid and he couldn’t clear his throat and oh my god, that sound. And my heart stopped and I ran to Max with him in my arms because my body doesn’t believe that babies start breathing again if they make that sound and it didn’t occur to me to try to save him; I just wanted us all together while it happened.
And then it was all okay and I turned on the light and made him look at me and tell me he was fine and he beamed at me and his eyes said… ‘for gods sake woman… Get a grip.’
You really can’t beat a baby who smiles and cries and wees in fountains and twinkles with blue eyes.
And breathes.

 

Filed Under: Being a Parent, Benedict Tagged With: 11 week old baby, baby development, life after the death of a baby, new baby, new baby after infant loss

Comments

  1. Sallym says

    April 13, 2012 at 7:46 am

    He is gorgeous and beautiful and we are all proud of you and him. Thinking of you today xxx

  2. TBird Anni says

    April 13, 2012 at 8:46 am

    Aw he is so gorgeous!

  3. Jeanette says

    April 13, 2012 at 9:10 am

    Beautiful boy. Thinking of you all today. x

  4. Lindsey says

    April 13, 2012 at 9:18 am

    ‘xxxxxxxx’

  5. Michelle says

    April 13, 2012 at 10:13 am

    Very cute pics. 🙂

  6. Jacqui says

    April 13, 2012 at 10:18 am

    This so takes me back to when grandson was 11 weeks old. I had his feet and hands impressed in clay when he was 11 weeks and they’re now hanging in pride of place at his parent’s home, together with impressions of five year old brother. It’s such a lovely age…although Leon is still charming me at 21 months!

  7. Lisa | Mama.ie says

    April 13, 2012 at 2:31 pm

    Absolutely adorable! Love that stage just as they’re moving from newborn to baby! The cute smiles and giggles – melt!

    Thinking of you and your family today.

  8. Catherine W says

    April 13, 2012 at 10:40 pm

    Ah Merry. Yes, breathing is good. Reminds me of when R had croup. That sound, coughing, gasping. So awful. I’m sorry and I know it’s so worrying and complicated. I always agonise over whether I’m over or under reacting when either of the children are ill.

    He is SUCH a handsome baby. Such blue eyes. That fifth photograph down, of the blanket clutching, has just made me sob. Precious, precious boy.

  9. Hannah F says

    April 14, 2012 at 8:59 pm

    Lovely photos, especially the blanket one!

  10. Molly says

    April 15, 2012 at 7:33 pm

    He’s absolutely stunning Merry. What a beautiful post and pictures. x

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