Judging by my children’s astonished and outraged expressions when we read about Danny’s experience with a school cane and Captain Lancaster, they clearly don’t consider themselves to be beaten children, despite the fact that they do occasionally get the odd smack. This is a relief, as i’m getting a little tired of feeling like i’m lumped in with “child beaters” just because i am honest about the fact that occasionally my parenting strategies fail me completely. That said, i’m deeply resenting Amelie’s stance of “i can make you go completely mad by just giving you this look…” at the moment as i really do hate resorting to smacking. We’d really not used it as any sort of fianl stance for years as it most certainly didn’t work for Maddy and i feel slightly frustrated by a child who brings out the worst in me this way. I so want to be able to find another way of dealing with deliberate, wilful ignoring/bullying/hurting/manipulating/plain honest to goodness disobedience for the sake of it but she is utterly defeating me. If i ask her to do anything, she automatically does the opposite, such as when we were in a hurry the other day, i asked her to put socks on and came back to find her completely naked again and smirking. Her smirk really drives me wild. And i know so many people who handle this kind of stuff calmly and rationally and i find myself persistently disappointed in my lack of ability to handle it.
Oh well, this too will pass. In 18 months she’ll be 5, all being well, and a more different person than i can begin to imagine right now.
Fran and i mosied around town today and very much enjoyed our girly time together. We spent ages in Lakeland, where we fell in love with the colourful kitchen range and a set of plastic plates and stuff which will look lovely on my new table in my new dining room but which isn’t on their site. Bah 😀 Oh no, here it is.
And then we went and oggled crafty stuff in Colemans too, before pitching home with a heap of new Fairy Books 🙄 She’s read 2 already!
The others had a good time at Silverstone, though i think it was a bit cold. Amelie said the highlight for her was getting a drink; Maddy got waved at by a car driver and was highly delighted by that. Honestly, that girl in her tightly fitting jeans. Where the hell did she get a waist and a bum from???? I’m SO not ready for a saucy wench of a 6 year old! 😯
We’ve enjoyed tea together tonight, managed not to have to get frustrated with Fran’s manners, praised Amelie for some excellent knife and fork use (the only one who seems to be able to do it!) and laughed at Josie who now has the words Dora, backpack and map down pat and appears to have some sort of sniffer dog ability when it comes to Dora merchandise around the house. 😆
And now i am doing more ebay listing as we’ve discovered this morning that our rent actually runs out earlier than we thought and the completion date we’ve been pushing for is nowhere near as convenient and we might be moving rather sooner than we planned. Eeeep. SO i REALLY have to get rid of this heap of stuff that is very enticing but we don’t exactly need two versions of!