Interesting weekend.
Well, in a lie on the safa and not do a great deal sort of a way. But it was nice. Mum and Dad adore seeing the girls and vice versa so being there with them was great; i’m now girl-less for as long as the relevant parties last, hopefully till wednesday anyway. Ammi and i had grisly tummies so were both not at our best, although i don’t know exactly what was up with us. We seem to have recovered now anyway but i did sleep a LOT!!!! First weekend of this pregnancy i have been like that really. Both big girls got a day at the cars with daddy which they loved and i suppose getting individual time with him must have really been nice for them too and i enjoyed just curling up on sofas reading stories and watching dvds with the other two. Fran particularly enjoyed a version of A Midsummer Nights Dream in prose form which was lovely. I really may have to get some of these Ambleside books from Tanglewood i think. They are too nice not to have.
I got a night out with Faye who is now on her way back to Australia. Maybe its because the edges were worn off these “forever” friendships so long ago, when we all had so many edges and were capable of putting things crudely very easily and often but had to just get on with it, but its strange how easy it is to drop instantly into very important and raw subject matter with Faye and Anne, who i have known for 15-20 years, and know that we will be friends at the end of them. Makes them special, also makes me see how important it is to keep with other friendships so that 15 years down the line, i hope they will have the same quality. Ramble ramble…
I’d be lying if i didn’t say i came away from the evening feeling profoundly grateful my life is as simple as it is but i do admire Faye enormously even if we have seriously different outlooks and even if i don’t agree, i couldn’t judge her harshly for her choices. We all have to be who we are i guess and life is not clear cut at the best of times. However, i’m kind of glad i’m not living that particular life, i don’t think i could keep up with it!!!
I also had a few good conversations with my mum about the girls and HE, weird but interesting. Boring to recap on probably, so i won’t but useful for me. It all seems very accepted and supported there now which is a good thing and helps me a lot.
Did manage to get a mobile hairdresser round to the girls on Friday so they all look reasonably neat now. Ammi thought it all most hilarious and sat very still so she now has a tidy, cheeky urchin style – Moo is keeping hers long so long as she agrees to hairwashing!!!
There was an interesting article in the paper up there, the Independent had done a few pages on “lists” readers had sent in – the one i originally had pointed out made me laugh because it was
“Things not to bother taking to hospital for birth of my 3rd baby” and from memory was something like…
1) TENS machine (stays in box so what is the point?)
2) Dextrasol tablets
3) Talcum Powder
4) Dressing gown (cord still won’t do up after i have baby)
5) Birthplan
6) Dignity
Wonder if she lives round here????
There was also one which was very sad really made by someone who was very ill and deeply resenting some of the things people said to her on the back of it, like “I’m so worried about you” or “I don’t know what to say.” I can understand people being made angry by “I don’t know what to say so i won’t ring” but it would be fairly easy to want to give people space and get it wrong, well, you can get things like that wrong at the drop of a hat at the best of times. I can remember a work colleague gripping my arm when Fran was 6 weeks old and saying “Oh i was SOOOOO sorry to hear about the baby…” Well gee thanks…. its not like i don’t currently have my adorable small strapped to my front in a sling… it was a crisis, not a tragedy. But on the other hand, i did kind of understand that the whole thing was a bit unfathomable to other people, well, they hadn’t been there had they?
I admit to also liking the one about famous people dying during sex! (Mostly Popes, oddly…)
Anyway, i quite liked the notion of list compiling – i was making my mum laugh with a “Boring Answers to Boring Questions people ask you about HE” one anyway!
*Yes, its legal.
*Yes i enjoy it.
*Yes they learn stuff.
*No i don’t follow the National Curriculum.
*No, i’m not a trained teacher.
*No i don’t worry about socialization.
*No, i don’t worry about what i’ll do if they want to learn physics.
*Yes, i’m very brave (*while rolling eyes*).
*Yes i will let them go to University.
Grin… same old same old…
